I was taught to copy my way to success in business. “Find a few successful business models who are succeeding in the way you hope in the coaching and consulting industry,” they said. This was called R & D, but it didn’t stand for Research and Development. As I remember it, it meant “Rob and Duplicate”—see something that’s working and replicate it to achieve the same or better results. So many amazing and talented people, to this day, struggle with an identity crisis, and I think this “Rob and Duplicate” mentality is a big reason why.
While seemingly practical on the surface, this approach often leads to a lack of genuine identity. You become a patchwork of borrowed traits, and while you might experience fleeting moments of victory, it’s ultimately unsustainable. You’re playing a character, not living your truth. This disconnect between your actions and your authentic self can lead to burnout, disillusionment, and a nagging feeling that something is missing. You may look successful on the outside but lack the inner fulfillment that comes from truly owning who you are and the unique gifts and talents you bring.
So, how do you break free from this cycle of imitation and pave your own path?
It starts with understanding that true success isn’t about mimicking someone else’s blueprint. It’s about discovering your own. It’s about digging deep to uncover your unique strengths, passions, and values, and then creating a solution that reflects those core elements. Sure, look at what others are doing, but don’t stop there. Don’t just copy.
That dream you hold in your heart would not exist if you didn’t have what it takes thrive with it.
The most important questions you can ask yourself are: “What makes me, me?” “What kind of impact do I want to make?” and “What is it about the work I do that lights me up?”
Once you have a clearer understanding of your authentic self, you can move away from identity crisis and into experiencing a new reality that resonates and aligns more with who you are. This isn’t about creating a persona or putting on a mask. It’s about fully embodying the truest version of yourself—the person you were always meant to become.
It’s about letting your authenticity shine through in everything you do.
Lately, I’ve been hearing a lot about identity shifts and creating new realities. This has led me to examine how I’m showing up for the people I help, for my family, and even for myself. As these thoughts and feelings have evolved, I’ve realized that I am an Impact Activator, and I need to show up as a heart-centered leader, not as the “Girl Friday” I used to be.
For me, it was about fully embodying the Impact Activator identity. This is who I was meant to be, but this identity was often overshadowed by the pressure to do business as usual, like everyone else.
Here’s what I’ve learned, and I sincerely hope it helps you move from identity crisis to a new, resonant reality, bringing you to a next-level identity that allows you to make the impact you were born to make.
From Identity Crisis to Experiencing A New Reality.
From the belief system you hold about what you want to achieve, to how you are showing up in life and for the people you want to help, to who you are being daily—all these combined do the following three things:
- Bring inspiration and create new ideas.
- Shift perspectives and identities.
- Vibrate at the highest frequency, making it easier to connect with others.
Then, and only then, no matter what, will you achieve all that you want and more in your life.you want and more in your life.
If you are an entrepreneur or a CEO with a special cause, and you feel like you have what it takes to make a bigger impact but aren’t sure how to get noticed for the incredible work you do, I invite you to explore the Beyond ‘Biz’ Experience. It’s an inspiring online space where passion meets purpose, and every interaction brings you closer to turning your dream into a thriving reality! You may also want to join me for a virtual cup of coffee. Click the link below to grab a spot on my calendar.
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